The ex-boyfriend's side is at thezoepost. The ex-girlfriend's is at Once again, I will not negotiate with terrorists. My take:
1. Whether he should've gone public is debatable, but conflict of interest cases should go public, and when you have sex with someone who will review your work, the conflict of interest exists, even if it's not on your mind when you decide to have sex.
2. There's only one rule for relationships: honesty.
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